The Joys of Self-Pleasure!

Manually pleasuring yourself should be as natural as sex itself. And, while a lot of people are embarrassed by it, you really should not be. O.k., perhaps you don't need to broadcast it to your neighbors, friends, and family, but between you and your lover it does not need to be a mystery. Masturbation actually does serve a purpose. Apart from your own pleasure, it also teaches you what feels good, and where it feels great. It teaches you how to relax during a sexual encounter in order to get better or more orgasms. These lessons you learn can then be verbalized to your lover during sex to get an even better sexual experience. To put it simply, you have discovered where it feels good once you do it, now tell him so he can make you feel good.

Bear in mind that pleasuring yourself isn't about how often you come to an orgasm. Or even if you orgasm in any respect. It is about pleasing yourself, which makes you feel good like nobody else can. While climaxes are great, they just indicate the maximum point of pleasure during sexual stimulation. There are many, many points in between which are immensely pleasurable. There's nothing wrong with you in case you don't have an orgasm. Focus on how good you can make yourself feel. Generally over time, you will learn exactly what and where feels best and how to bring about orgasm. But do not let this be the focus of bliss, simply enjoy the feelings.

Consider organizing some alone time. Go some where you won't be bothered. Ensure to have some time available to you so that you can relax and enjoy yourself. If you are able to lock the door so that you will not be disturbed, if not make sure to ask that this time be your lonely time. Having a family can make alone time difficult to get, consider requesting bath time once weekly. This will be your time to unwind and escape from the daily stresses. If you are new to pleasuring yourself, or simply looking to get more from it try creating some ambience. Bring a tape or cd player with you to listen to soft music. Purchase a couple of scented candles. The odor lavender is known for it's comfort properties. Then relax and enjoy your time alone with yourself. Love the soft music, and the scent and glow of the candles. Do not rush, start off slow and simple. You know where to touch to make you feel great, don't be ashamed, just go with it.